I take an active role working with my clients.  Focus is on functioning in the here and now with a look back to the past only as it may influence the present.   Relationships are key starting with ours, and can include your romantic life and/or marriage, and interacting with friends, your parents, children or grandchildren and coworkers.  You will be encouraged to seek a healthy lifestyle both physically and mentally.  I do make suggestions, but the choices are always your own.  When working with substance abusers I don't discharge relapsers because I see that as a sign that we need to work harder or try another approach.   We'll have a partnership, but you will only get out of therapy what you are willing to invest in it.  I wish I did, but I don't have a magic wand.